Parenting your neurodivergent child
Neurodivergence refers to people who differ in mental or neurological function from what is considered average or “typical.” It is a framework for understanding the diverse array of neurological functioning, cognition, motor abilities, social comfort, and sensory processing that can occur in an individual. The term “neurodivergent” includes individuals with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder), ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), ADHD (Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder), learning disabilities like Dyslexia and Dyspraxia, Tourette Syndrome, and sensory processing issues. Being a parent to someone who is neurodivergent is one of the most rewarding experiences you can have! However, it can also come with some challenges, including feelings of isolation and frustration.
Here are some suggestions for parents of neurodivergent children. Remember, we are here for you when you are ready to go deeper.
Parenting a Neurodivergent Child
Advocate For Them.
It’s important for parents to make sure their child is receiving the proper care and support they need to succeed. This can look like instating an IEP (Individualized Education Plan) for them at school, having difficult conversations with doctors and healthcare providers to get them the care they need, and having them be formally diagnosed.
Support Them The Best You Can.
Depending on your child’s needs, specific support tactics can look different, but some things apply to all neurodivergent children. First, the most important thing you can do is provide a safe space at home where they can be themselves and explore their identity and interests. Try to have games and activities that meet their sensory needs and preferences, and are related to things they enjoy. Focusing on their strengths rather than challenges should be top priority in making them feel seen, heard, cared for, and supported.
Establish Routine And Promote Independence.
Consistent routines can help provide stability and predictability for neurodivergent children. Once a routine has been established, it also provides a great opportunity for your child to practice independence. Once they get in the flow of a routine, try staying on the sidelines and encourage them to go through the routine independently.
Seek Professional Support.
Of course, seeking professional support is a great way to get help, advice, strategies, and interventions tailored specifically for your child, but counseling also makes sure you are receiving the care and attention you need as a parent and an individual. Not only will this make you a better parent with renewed patience for your child’s needs, but it will enrich your own life and happiness, which is an important pursuit in its own right.
If you’re looking for tools and support, AIM Counseling can help. Founder Ashlee Marozick specializes in counseling neurodivergent children age 6 and older, as well as teens and adults. She wants to help your family flourish and thrive! For more information, explore our Specialties page, or request a Free Consultation.